• Paige Barker

Page 05: God Has a Plan for Your Brokenness

Brokenness can make you feel like everything you’ve ever done was a waste. What was the point of that (insert your relationship, experience, sacrifice, friendship, etc.) if it was only going to end this way? And we know that at a simple command God can take our pain away. But what if He doesn’t?

What I can tell you is: There’s a purpose in your pain.

The One who knows the end from the beginning has the plan for your brokenness. But I’m not going to sit here and try to tell you that it's just for a season or that eventually, it will pass because it doesn't make the hurt go away or make it easier. It’s painful and makes your heart and your head ache, and sometimes even your spirit. Does the season of brokenness pass? Yes. But we don't need to hear that because we already know the season will pass. What we need is people who will tell us, "It’s okay to feel hurt. Being upset about how things ended is okay. It’s okay to cry every day if that’s what you need to do to heal." We need people who acknowledge the pain we’re experiencing and don’t try to force us to heal in their timing.

If you're walking through any brokenness today, know that you're not alone. And let me encourage you:

  1. Get with God. Even if it's just with your tears while listening to worship music. Let Him in on your hurt because He cares and He has what can heal your brokenness. It may not happen in the timing you want, but healing will come.

  2. Allow yourself to walk through the pain. Don't feel like you have to have it all together or like you need to be healed by a specific time. It wasn't until I walked through my own stuff that I realized everyone processes differently and everyone heals differently, and in their own time. Don't use that as an excuse to stay in a place of brokenness though. But do acknowledge that it is okay to heal fast or heal slow.

  3. Smile and laugh. Get around people who will help brighten your day and remind you that it's all going to work out. Find people who will make you laugh, even when you don't feel like doing so. This makes all the difference.

Maybe you're not walking through any brokenness today, but you know someone who is. Let me encourage you:

  1. Be patient. Like I said previously, everyone processes and heals differently, so be patient with your friend, family member, coworker, etc. You don't have to try to understand their pain, but just be patient while they walk it out.

  2. Be present with them. Often when someone is hurting they just want someone to be there - not to say or do anything, but to just be there. Sometimes there can be pressure to make sure you say the right thing or to not mention the wrong thing... but just be present in the moment and let them know you care about their heart, and that will mean the world to them.

  3. Pray. Pray for your friend to feel comforted and protected in this season. Pray for God to reveal His love stronger than ever, pray for His peace and His presence to overwhelm their hearts. Prayer is the best thing you can do on behalf of anyone.

One last thing I'll leave you with...

Keep reading and declaring scripture over yourself. This is one of the most important (if not the most important) things you can do. And if you don't know what scriptures to read, I've put a few of the ones I've clung to in times of my own brokenness below.

  • Psalm 34:18 - "The Lord is close to those whose hearts have been broken. He saves those whose spirits have been crushed."

  • Psalm 147:3 - "He heals those who have broken hearts. He takes care of their wounds."

  • Psalm 23:6 - "I am sure that your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life. And I will live in the house of the Lord forever."

  • 2 Corinthians 1:3-5 - "Give praise to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! He is the Father who gives tender love. All comfort comes from him. He comforts us in all our troubles. Now we can comfort others when they are in trouble. We ourselves have received comfort from God. We share the sufferings of Christ. We also share his comfort."

PS. If no one has told you today, God loves you, He cares for you and He only wants the best for you.