• Paige Barker

Page 02: God is Incapable of Rejecting You

Rejection sucks. Heartbreak sucks. Hurt sucks. I wish there was a way to erase all sorts of uncomfortable feelings; feelings that aren't easy to walk through and feelings that don’t make us "feel good". But God established those feelings to bring us closer to Him. I don’t believe He orchestrates heartbreak or rejection, but I do believe that He works ALL things for good according to Romans 8:28. And I believe that He can use anything to bring glory to Himself, even if it is through our deepest hurts and darkest moments.

I would never wish for rejection on anyone, and I would never wish for someone to walk through that kind of pain. Although I have never experienced the heartbreak of a romantic relationship, I have experienced my fair share of heartbreak in friendships - more times than I care to count. Some were uncontrollable, some were self-inflicted, and some were God’s way of protecting me. I don’t think I would choose to navigate any of those experiences again, but I sure am thankful for where they brought me and what they brought me out of.

I don’t know where you stand today. You may be enjoying the heck out of life and loving every second of it, and I celebrate that with you. You may be just trying to get through the day or you may be wondering when the darkness will end. Will there ever be a light at the end of this long tunnel? Friend, I hear you. I understand.

Maybe you’ve been excluded by your friends. Maybe your parents told you that you weren’t good enough. Maybe you just lost your job. Maybe you’re healing from some sort of abuse. Maybe you came home to a doctor's report that is the opposite of good news. Maybe your husband decided to leave you. Whatever your darkness is, can I promise you something? There IS light in the middle of your darkness - because Jesus.

I believe when we walk through a dark season in our life, that’s when God can shed things that are weighing us down and holding us back. I believe it’s in the dark you get shaped into who God needs you to be. In the dark is where you develop. Just like a photograph is developed in the dark, you, my beautiful friend, are developed in the dark. An artist doesn’t reveal his masterpiece while he’s in the process of creating it; he reveals it when it’s ready. Sometimes we think we are ready to be revealed and to enter our new season but what I can tell you is that often times we are not ready when we think we are. Our darkest moments reveal who we are, what we believe and where we stand. For God to bring us to our next season we need to go through the testing.

Proverbs 17:3 says, “Fire tests silver. Heat tests gold. But the Lord tests our hearts.”

It’s in these moments that reveal the condition of our hearts. The testing is never fun, but it is needed, and it’s required. However, it WILL come to an end, if you choose to do your part.

So, tying this back to where we started; rejection, hurt and heartbreak. I don’t know why your friend didn’t include you. I don’t know why your parents told you that you weren’t good enough. I don’t know why you didn’t get the job. I don’t know why he left. I don’t know why you feel rejected, but there is always more than what or who rejected you.

For those that know me know I value loyalty and will always fight for the people in my life. I’ve chosen to be the kind of person that will never walk away. But I’ve had people who didn’t value the same thing, and it hurt every single time. It's not something that can ever be expected or prepared for, but that’s life. It’s unpredictable. It’s full of ups and downs that are sometimes out of our control. Though the sting of rejection hurts, let us not forget this one thing: God is incapable of rejecting you; it’s not in His nature to do so.

1 Peter 2:9 tells us: “But God chose you to be His people. You are royal priests. You are a holy nation. You are a people who belong to God. All of this is so that you can sing His praises. He brought you out of darkness into His wonderful light.”

God has chosen you, He’s chosen me, and He’s even chosen the person who has hurt us.

We all need grace, we all need mercy, we all need forgiveness. And the more we choose to love despite our hurt, despite the rejection, despite our heartbreak the more we allow the power of God’s love to lead us.

If you're walking through any kind of hurt, comment below or message me so I can pray for you!