• Paige Barker

Page 32: RelationTIP #2

Happy Wednesday, friends!

RelationTIP#2: Communication, communication, communication!

“The quality of your communication determines the size of your result.”― Meir Ezra

Do you want a great relationship? Look at the quality of your communication in that relationship.

In a few weeks, Logan and I will celebrate one year of dating. It has been the best year of my life yet. He’s my favorite person, my best friend, and the best boyfriend. Before meeting Logan, I always heard that communication was one of the most important things, if not the most important thing, in a relationship. And every single person who mentioned that was right.

Logan and I have walked through some of the best mountain tops and the worst valleys together, and the two things that have kept our relationship thriving are Jesus and communication.

When we started dating, we both agreed that the one thing we would always do is talk about it. Whatever “it” is. When it’s easy, when it’s hard, when it’s uncomfortable, when it doesn’t make sense, when we don’t even know what to say... we would talk about it. And that has been the best thing for our relationship. Because no matter what happens, we communicate with one another. Frankly, I don’t know if we’d have the great relationship I get to say we have without the foundation of communication we’ve been building on.

There are times when neither one of us wants to talk it out for a few reasons:

  • We’re frustrated with each other

  • We don’t “feel” like talking

  • We don’t exactly know how we feel or how to put it into words

But what I always tell Logan is this: just start talking. Because it always helps.

I have learned that communication can prevent the littlest of issues from becoming major problems. I’m not saying that communication is always easy because it's definitely not, especially when the person sitting across from you is the complete opposite. I’m also not saying that conflict will never happen because it will. What I am saying is that having a strong foundation of communication makes it all WORTH IT.

One of my favorite parts of my relationship with Logan is when we have conflict. Not because of the conflict itself. I actually hate conflict. But I love what comes after conflict resolution. There’s a closeness I feel towards Logan that wasn’t there before, and it makes me love him more. But only because we commit to communicating — communicating our feelings, thoughts, hurts, wants, expectations, and hearts. We talk about everything.

I may be a little biased, but I think we have a pretty great relationship. And I thank God and communication for that.

There is still so much I am learning in the communication department. Still, I believe if a couple commits to communicate with one another, their relationship will be so much better off.